Oh, that’s an interesting way of putting it. So are you saying that when someone conducts themselves in a way that is suitable to demean themselves, it is my obligation to protect them from that?
In my ears, the phrase “give oneself the permission to demean” is somewhat awkward because demeaning someone is generally seen as something that you should not do, yet the phrase suggests that it might be permitted under certain circumstances. But perhaps this is precisely where our disagreement lies: you seem to think that it is never okay “to cause someone to become less respected” (and hence, giving oneself permission to do so is basically a pseudo-permission, not a legitimate justification), whereas I think that if someone conducts themselves in a way that is suitable to cause them to become less respected, then it can very well be justified to make this known. Journalists do that every day. I wouldn’t use the word “demean” in those cases, though, but “reporting”.
Also, I wouldn’t call the details I posted “gory”, as it seems to imply some kind of voyeuristic intent (and, in the present context, that they were unnecessary). Rather, if they need an adjective, I would perhaps say that they are “telling”, because they tell the reader quite a bit about how the interaction went; which was, as mentioned earlier, exactly my intention with providing them.
I have no problem whatsoever with copying and pasting my entire message to the SonnySoftware forum, if that is what you were trying to tell me all along. The reason I posted it here was because I was already engaged in a discussion about bookends here and it made sense as an update to this topic. What would have been the aim of starting a new topic on the SonnySoftware forum with this content? If I had done so, I would probably have agreed with you that it would seem like I’m
with the main purpose of complaining (given that my complain was already rejected by SonnySoftware).
I’m not sure where those rights are derived from. If Jon cares to respond to everything that someone says about him, then he certainly has the right to respond in the place where the original claim was published (and I’d be happy to continue the conversation with him here), but I don’t see why everyone who has something to say about Bookends or SonnySoftware support to do so on the SonnySoftware forum. - Of course, if the author’s intention is to complain and get a response from SonnySoftware, then that forum would certainly the place to go, but my intention was not to complain but to report.
I don’t see what would warrant such an interpretation. The only thing I might be “afraid” of on the SonnySoftware forum could be the software on which the forum runs (phpBB), but that’s mainly because I like discourse so much (which is what this MPU runs on). I don’t even see what issue I might want to get myself out of. In my exchange with SonnySoftware, I was trying to get into an issue (and failed).