This book has been the most helpful and practical book Iâve found for living with ADHD.
Iâve not listened to the episode yet - so perhaps I shouldnât comment. But I will anyway.
My experience is that eating the frog is draining and wrecks the rest of the day. Until something/someone energising comes along.
Now to listen to the episode - open mindedly - to see if the panel agrees.
I love the increased amount of interviews on Focused and MPU lately.
Hereâs a link to a list of criteria associated with ADHD.
Itâs important to think of this (and others like it) as just a guide. If these symptoms or others make life difficult for you or someone you care about, there are people who can help. And know too that you or they arenât the only one.
Feel free to DM me if youâd like.
https://www.addrc.org/dsm-5-criteria-for-adhd/
This is a great YouTube channel mentioned in the podcast.
That list of symptoms says I donât have ADHD. It doesnât matter if I do or donât, so long as I can handle being me whoever I am.
But the thought it triggered was âis there actually any such thing as âneurotypicalâ?â
I know itâs tempting to put people in boxes. But putting people into ânot normalâ boxes - however granular - isnât helpful. I think itâs better to think of neurodiversity as pervasive. The motivation for that is to accept people with all their proclivities.
So I viewed this episode slightly detached. But I still stand by my previous comment: âEating The Frog Firstâ is unhelpful for me - but for different reasons, I think, than for people with ADHD.
Agree that the frog can be unhelpful for some/many.
And I agree with this. While neatly putting people in boxes helps the âorganiserâ I doubt it helps the âperson in the boxâ. As an example, for me, eating the frog is the best thing I can do. It does empower and energise me and also reinforces I have done the âbig thingâ that day. It can also allow me to think âWhew!, I did the big thing. If I do nothing else today âŚâ and that can happen too (nothing else gets done that day! )
One of my favourite quotes from Psychologist, Carl R. Rogers is: âCan I let myself enter fully into the world of his (sic) feelings and personal meanings and see these as he (sic) does?â
âŚand that is how I would like to view people, from their perspective and their experience and the thoughts and feelings on those areas. (Not saying Iâm any good at this, it is an aspiration which I fail at constantly!)
I donât really want to make this about me - but such a topic relies on personal experience so here goesâŚ
⌠Yes, I too get the boost from âI did the big thingâ but it - in my case -comes at a cost: Not much later at all I feel drained.
Thereâs a general âwe pay for our good news with bad news slightly laterâ thing going on. I guess the answer is to understand our own dynamics - and plan accordingly.
Absolutely, I wasnât intending to diminish your experience, just conveying my own.
We are all different. And for me, Iâm trying to, as you put well, understand our (my) own dynamics.
Iâll stop there as I may be taking the thread off topic and that isnât/wasnât my intention.
As I listened to this episode, there were a few things Jesse said that reminded me of comments that a good friend has shared with me over time.
I shared this episode with him. It resonated. A lot.
He has since sought professional help, has been diagnosed with ADHD, started medication and his life is improving in multiple ways (professional and personal).
Thanks for this episode - it was life-changing.
Thatâs incredible. Thanks so much for sharing this.