How to define which email address is used for an Apple ID Legacy Contact?

I’m finally trying to add Legacy Contacts to my Apple ID, but somehow Apple always choses the wrong email address to represent me. My primary email Apple ID email adres is X (a nickname), but I also have added alternatives Y (random recovery address) and Z (my full name). Apple always choses Y, unless I remove it. Then Apple choses X. Unfortunately I want it to be Z, without changing my primary email address to Z (I don’t want developers to see my full name in their TestFlight).

Is this possible? How?

Reason for asking: I only share Z with my family members, so when Apple choses Y their iPhone displays an (to them) unknown email address that does not match any entry in their address book (so it won’t display my name or profile picture).

The instructions are ‘How to add a Legacy Contact for your Apple ID’.

If “X” is your iCloud account then I would think that is your only choice. I would discuss this with Apple support.

So confusing!



With my current set up the invitation message is sent as Y and the account is identified as Z; not X…


With my current set up the invitation message is sent as Z and the account is identified as Y; not Z (or X)…

:confused: So . . . Z is what is showing when you open Settings on your iPhone and Tap on your name?


Sorry, I mixed things up myself by using letters… :person_facepalming:

Let’s try again:

My Apple ID has 3 email addresses configured:

My address card has 2 email addresses configured:

My contacts have only 1 email address configured:

Note that my address card does not have

When I add a legacy contact, the iMessage is sent using, but if the legacy contact opens it, they will see as the “person” they are now a legacy contact for (and since that’s not in their address book they only see that email address; not my full name and/or profile picture)

My goal is to get my legacy contacts to see my name and profile picture, without them adding either or in their address book.

“A Legacy Contact is someone you choose to have access to the data in your Apple account after your death.”

If I understand correctly and is the address displayed under Settings/iCloud on your iPhone, that is your iCloud account. It is the key to your data in iCloud and purchased music/movie/apps, etc.

Anything that you have set up in email doesn’t change that. I think what you are wanting to do is change the email address associated with your Apple ID.

That I have never done, but this should (hopefully) help. Good luck.

That might indeed be the only solution (I have changed it in the past), but I hope there are alternatives, as this would invade my privacy (share my full first & last name with developers all over the world via TestFlight, as well as the email address that I only share with family members).

Looks like people were already complaining about this in 2021:

And of course the replies from “Community Specialists” are useless, as usual. That’s why I love the expertise and atmosphere at this forum so much!

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When I create a Legacy Contact, that person gets an entry for me but NOT using my Apple ID email address but, in my case, the last additional email address listed under Reachable At.

I was hoping that would help me, but that’s apparently not the algorithm Apple uses.

After adding/removing a few email addresses I came to the conclusion that Apple sorts the email addresses on the username (the part before the “@” symbol) and picks the first.

This means I’m screwed, because the first letter of the nickname of my Apple ID is before the first letter of my first name in the alphabet. (And the address I definitely did not want to share starts with an “a”…)

But maybe I’m wrong about TestFlight Privacy? After reading the policy I’m starting to think I had the wrong impression: Apple does not share the primary email address of an Apple ID?

If that’s true, I can (safely) change my Apple ID’s primary email address to after all.

Do we have perhaps have an Apple developer in the community who is willing to help me test this?

(I’m an Apple developer myself, but TestFlight is managed by my company; I don’t have access)